Posted by: Marie | December 6, 2009

(196) I love lists

Post #196
[Book study – Saturday, July 25, 2009]

The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
(Third Edition, 1994)
by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis

Part Two: The Healing Process
A Stage of Healing: Remembering

[Table of Contents]

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Green text: Quotes/Summaries from the book
Gray text: My words

This transformative work (the entire series of blog posts relating to this book) constitutes a ‘fair use’ of any copyrighted material as provided for in Section 107 of the US Copyright law.

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Writing Exercise: What Happened To You

Write about your experience of being sexually abused as a child.
(I’m choosing to instead write about historical events for which, still today, I carry shame and/or guilt. This includes, but is not limited to, sexual abuse.)

(My answer is continued from an earlier post . . . )

It is my understanding that a significant part of this writing exercise is to really look at the feelings and emotions I experienced when “what happened” happened. I have noticed that my vocabulary around emotions is rather limited. That makes this exercise all the more challenging for me (as if it isn’t challenging enough!)

Selflessness Forest by Martin Chen

Selflessness Forest by Martin Chen

So, I have compiled an awesome list of adjectives to help jump-start my vocabulary. Now, I must warn you – I have made a very conscious decision to not make this list “perfect”. Therefore, it may not be perfectly in alphabetical order, it is possible that not all the words are adjectives, or even truly classified as emotions or feelings.

It would be easy for me to procrastinate writing the “meat” of this exercise by fussing over this list’s lack of perfection. I’m not going to do that. Instead, I’m going to allow it to remain in a “good enough” condition. It is simply a brain tickler, anyway – it doesn’t have to be perfect to be useful.

Feel free to copy this list and make it your own. You don’t need to give me creative credit. It will please me if you are able to use it. Also, I would be honored if you would add your favorite adjectives via the comments section . . . what similar words do you really love?

abandoned
able
absolved
abundance
abused
acceptable
accepted
accepting
accountable
active
adaptable
adequate
admirable
admired
adored
affluent
agreeable
agony
afraid
alert
alienated
alone
ambitious
amenable
amused
angry
annoyed
anxious
appreciated
apprehensive
approved of
approving
ashamed
assured
at a loss
at ease
attached
attentive
attractive
authentic
awake
aware
awesome
awkward
bad
balanced
beautiful
believed
believing
betrayed
better-than
blame (towards others)
blamed
blessed
blissful
bonded
bored
brave
brilliant
burdened
calm
capable
captivated
cared for
careful
caring
cautious
centered
certain
cheated
cheerful
cherished
clean
clear
collected
comfortable
comforted
committed
compassionate
complete
composed
comprehending
concerned
confident
confused
congruent
connected
conscious
constant
content
cooperative
courageous
crazy
credible
crushed
cornered
daring
deceived
decisive
defeated
defended
defensive
defiled
degraded
dejected
delighted
dependable
depressed
deprived
desirable
desired
despair
despondent
devastated
dignified
disappointed
discerning
disciplined
disconnected
discouraged
discounted
disenchanted
disgusted
disliked
dismayed
disoriented
distinguished
distraught
distrustful (towards others)
distrusted
doubt
drained
dread
driven
dutiful
dynamic
eager
easy-going
ecstatic
edified
efficient
elated
elegant
elevated
emancipated
embarrassed
empowered
empty
emptiness
encouraged
energetic
energized
enraged
enthusiastic
euphoric
exceptional
excited
exhausted
exhilarated
expansive
experienced
expressive
exuberant
faith
faithful
fantastic
fatigued
favored
fearful
firm
flexible
flowing
focused
forceful
forgiven
fortified
fortunate
fragile
frantic
free
friendly
frightened
frustrated
fulfilled
gentle
genuine
gifted
glowing
good-natured
graceful
gracious
grateful
gratified
grief stricken
grounded
guarded
guilty
hapless
happy
harmonious
harried
healed
heartache
heartbroken
heartsick
heaviness
healed
helpful
helpless
heroic
hesitant
high
honest
honorable
honored
hopeful
hopeless
horror
horrified
hostile
humble
humiliated
humored
humorous
hurt
ignored
impatient
important
in control
inadequate
included
independent
indignant
infatuated
influential
innocent
insecure
insignificant
inspired
intelligent
interested
intimidated
invigorated
invincible
invited
irritated
invalidated
jovial
joyful
jubilant
judged
judgmental
judicious
kind
lazy
learned
less-than
lethargic
liberated
light
lighthearted
lonely
longing for
loose
loss
lost
loved
loyal
lucky
mad
magnetic
manipulated
marvelous
masterful
mature
meek
melancholy
merciful
methodical
mindful
misused
modest
mortified
motivated
neat
needy
neglected
noble
non-judgmental
not trusted
observant
offended
open
open hearted
organized
outgoing
outraged
overwhelmed
pacified
pained
pampered
pardoned
passionate
patient
peaceful
perfect
persecuted
persevering
picked on
pleasant
pleased
popular
positive
powerful
praised
precious
prepared
present
pressured
productive
proficient
progressive
prosperous
protected
prudent
punctual
punished
purified
purposeful
put down
put upon
puzzled
qualified
quick
radiant
rage
rational
reasonable
reassured
rebellious
receptive
recognized
redeemed
regenerated
rejected
rejecting
relaxed
release
released
reliable
relief
relieved
remembered
remorseful
replenished
resentment
resolute
respected
respectful
responsive
restless
restored
revitalized
rewarded
rooted
sad
satisfied
scared
scattered
scorned
secure
seen
self-conscious
selfish
selfless
self-reliant
sensational
sensible
sensitive
serene
settled
shamed
shattered
silly
simple
skillful
smooth
soothed
sorrow
sorrowful
spirited
splendid
stable
startled
steadfast
strengthened
strong
successful
suffering
supported
suspicious (of self or others)
sustained
tactful
teachable
temperate
tenacious
tender
terror
thankful
thoughtful
thrilled
tired
tolerant
tortured
tranquil
trapped
triumphant
troubled
trustful
trusting
traumatized
unacknowledged
unappreciated
unbiased
uncertain
understanding
understood
undisturbed
unhurried
unique
united
unloved
unselfish
untrusting
unmotivated
unsure
untrusting
unwanted
unworthy
upheld
used
valiant
valuable
valued
victimized
violated
vital
vulnerable
warm
wasted
wary
wealthy
weary
weird
willing
wise
wonderful
worthwhile
worried
worthless
worthy
wounded
worn out
wrongly accused
yielding
zealous

[Continued in a subsequent post . . . ]

Quotes 104


Responses

  1. Oh Marie… Thank you so much for the list!!! Two bookmarks in one day! Awesome!

    • You are most welcome, Paul!

  2. Wow…that is an awesome list! Where did you find all those words. I’d be lucky to come up with ten words. I will be looking at this more than a few times.

    • Hey, lostinamaze –

      I actually took a number of other lists I pulled from the internet and put them together — and added some of my own. I created my own list because I couldn’t find one that had everything I wanted on it.

      I’m glad it will of use to you!

      – Marie


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