The following blog posts all touch on the topic of boundaries:
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August 2008
(Posted to the blog on 5/14/09)
Truth is not always absolute: I finally understand why I am so triggered by the conflict
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August 25, 2008 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 5/16/09)
Setting boundaries – Part 1: I tell T — I apologize for my part; I acknowledge you for the way you have shown up so far
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August 25, 2008 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 5/17/09)
Setting boundaries – Part 2: I set a boundary with T — Stop means stop
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August 25, 2008 – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 5/18/09)
Setting boundaries – Part 3: I set a boundary with T: I need you to keep track of key facts about me and my life
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August 25, 2008 – Part 4
(Posted to the blog on 5/19/09)
Setting boundaries – Part 4: I set a boundary with T: I need for us to create a plan of action for my therapy
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August 25, 2008 – Part 5
(Posted to the blog on 5/20/09)
Setting boundaries – Part 5: I set a boundary with T: I need for you to keep your religious beliefs out of my therapy
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October 28, 2008 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 6/2/09)
An end to therapy – Part 1: I find T’s physical contact during our session to be healing; T brings his religious beliefs into the session again and that’s a deal-breaker for me
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October 28, 2008 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 6/6/09)
An end to therapy – Part 2: I fully understand why T is so compelled to try to change my spiritual beliefs; nevertheless, I’m ending our therapeutic relationship
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February 1, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 6/22/09)
Feeling disrespected: I give the members of my accountability group a piece of my mind
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February 2, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 6/24/09)
Lack of commitment: I give the members of my accountability group another piece of my mind
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April 5, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 8/10/09)
With or without you: I give my therapist an ultimatum — Walk through the pain with me or I’m walking away from our therapy
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April 16, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 8/17/09)
I’ve had enough: I end my professional relationship with my therapist because I have lost my ability to say what I need to say
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June 2, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 9/8/09)
Trust in intimacy: Book study – “Courage to Heal” – intimacy
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June 3, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 9/9/09)
Confused sexuality: Book study – “Courage to Heal” – sexuality
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June 24, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 10/14/09)
It’s easier to forget: Book study – “Courage to Heal” – forgetting it happened, splitting into all good or all bad
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July 5, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 10/26/09)
Fuzzy boundaries: Maritime history and ways my family tends to run roughshod over my personal boundaries
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July 31, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 12/14/09)
Trying hard to not be rude: Dealing with family members who try to push their religious beliefs on me
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READER INPUT
(Posted to the blog on 1/6/10)
Reader Input – What comes first? How healed is “healed enough” for being in a healthy relationship?
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September 6, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 1/11/10)
It pays to talk: I resolve a major conflict with one of my housemates
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September 18, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 1/15/10)
Male attention: Someone catches my interest
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September 23, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 1/19/10)
Keeping it aboveboard: Can I behave myself with a married man?
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September 24, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 1/20/10)
The million-dollar question: Why am I willing to participate in questionable relationships?
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September 29, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 1/27/10)
Another step out of hiding: Teaching a class on blogging
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October 12, 2009 (midday)
(Posted to the blog on 1/31/10)
A sense of badness: Can I contaminate my students just by being around them?
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October 12, 2009 (9pm)
(Posted to the blog on 2/1/10)
Maybe the good outweighs the bad: Maybe there is good in my students witnessing my progressive healing
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October 13, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 2/2/10)
A big empty ache: A hug from my ex-therapist has a strong effect on me
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READER INPUT
(Posted to the blog on 2/3/10)
Reader Input – Getting heard: How do you make sure you are being heard?
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October 23, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 2/8/10)
The meaning behind a touch: I avoid all touch with people because I fear they will think I’m coming on to them
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October 24, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 2/9/10)
Keeping promises: Anger about people not keeping their promises to me
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GUEST POST
(Posted to the blog on 2/10/10)
Guest Post – PTSD (Power) Balance: Finding balance by feeding your joy
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October 25, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 2/11/10)
Honest but selfish: I don’t fault my ex-husband for being honest
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November 2, 2009 – 3am
(Posted to the blog on 2/12/10)
How innocent am I really? A memory about a time I may have acted out sexually as a child
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November 2, 2009 – 6pm
(Posted to the blog on 2/15/10)
Bending over and . . . Things with my housemates get really bad
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November 3, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 2/16/10)
Just don’t tear it down! I’m not asking people to do my work for me, I just want them to support me as I’m trying to make progress
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November 4, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 2/18/10)
Repeat performances: How can I feel safe when I’m always fighting to protect my boundaries
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November 15, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 2/26/10)
Stabbing pain: Remembering a gynecology appointment that left me feeling violated
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November 17, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/1/10)
He has kind eyes: I want to be in touch with my femininity
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November 18, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/2/10)
Hope confirmed: We finalize the lease for my new piano studio
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November 21, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/4/10)
One tough cookie: What does it mean to be tough? Strong?
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November 29, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/11/10)
I need it for me: My need for safety influences my piano studio policy
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December 1, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/15/10)
Doing my part: Healing my beliefs about men requires daily choosing
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December 2, 2009 (2pm)
(Posted to the blog on 3/16/10)
I hear the train whistling: What started out as a fun idea takes a turn for the worse
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December 3, 2009 (2pm)
(Posted to the blog on 3/19/10)
The self-propelling piano: It seems I’m stuck with a not-so-great electric piano for my mini-concert
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December 3, 2009 (9pm)
(Posted to the blog on 3/22/10)
Uncertain choices: Should I reconnect with Mark (therapist #1)?
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December 4, 2009 (noon)
(Posted to the blog on 3/23/10)
But my gut says yes: My gut tells me I need to finish the unfinished business I have with Mark
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December 4, 2009 (10pm)
(Posted to the blog on 3/24/10)
Reaching for connection: I ask Mark if he is willing to take me as a client again
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December 5, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/25/10)
Counting the moments: Waiting for Mark’s response is tough
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December 6, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/26/10)
My tail is spinning: All the pressures come crashing in at once
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December 8, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 3/30/10)
No harm, no foul: Mark says he is willing to work with me again
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December 14, 2009 – 11am
(Posted to the blog on 4/5/10)
I can’t even crack a joke: Wait, no . . . I do have to perform for the full 30 minutes . . . this is not good
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December 14, 2009 – 8pm
(Posted to the blog on 4/6/10)
You can lay the blame on me: Wait, no . . . I’m not performing at all . . . whew!
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December 16, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 4/8/10)
I must be too nice! Maybe people shit on me because I’m too accommodating
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December 25, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 4/16/10)
So much for interpersonal boundaries: My sister and I face off in the middle of the night
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December 29, 2009
(Posted to the blog on 4/19/10)
A welcome contrast: Glad to be back home and in the new studio
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January 1, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 4/20/10)
An exercise in touch: My plan for a therapeutic exercise
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January 3, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 4/22/10)
A perfect partner: Is my therapist a good fit for me?
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January 4, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 4/23/10)
Uncomfortable stimuli: Ways I can respond to triggering situations
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January 5, 2010 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 4/26/10)
Something I must do – Part 1: I’m not ready to give up hope on my ability to be in an emotionally intimate relationship
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January 5, 2010 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 4/27/10)
Something I must do – Part 2: I’m still angry at Mark
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January 5, 2010 – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 4/28/10)
Something I must do – Part 3: The delicate balance between feeling safe and being challenged
January 6, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 4/29/10)
Desperate cravings: Searching for a sense of self
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GUEST POST
(Posted to the blog on 5/3/10)
Guest Post – The Guilt Sentinel: The painful coping mechanism of guilt
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January 7, 2010 – 3pm – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 5/4/10)
This day finally arrived – Part 1: Trying to get Mark to acknowledge his part in our conflict
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January 7, 2010 – 3pm – Part 4
(Posted to the blog on 5/7/10)
This day finally arrived – Part 4: The session leaves me with mixed feelings and a bit of confusion
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January 8, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 5/11/10)
The old compliance thing: I give myself permission to walk away, if needed
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January 9, 2010 – evening
(Posted to the blog on 5/14/10)
Figuring out my own way: I have to accept I won’t ever be understood by Mark
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January 10, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 5/17/10)
Heavy powerlessness: Struggling to give myself a voice and to find support in my journey
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January 11, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 5/18/10)
A question of bartering: The wisdom of exchanging piano lessons for therapy sessions
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January 13, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 5/20/10)
The pain of dealing with people: Everyday interaction with people can be difficult
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January 17, 2010 – 11am
(Posted to the blog on 5/21/10)
Connecting some dots: Triggered by memories of how my dad disciplined me
January 18, 2010 – noon
(Posted to the blog on 5/25/10)
Accusations of sabotage: My therapist sends an aggressive email to me
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January 18, 2010 – 1pm
(Posted to the blog on 5/27/10)
An attempt at cleaning it up: Trying to explain how I’m not sabotaging our therapy process
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January 18, 2010 – 2pm
(Posted to the blog on 5/28/10)
Attempts two, three and four: Desperately trying to repair the relationship with my therapist
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January 18, 2010 – 11pm
(Posted to the blog on 5/31/10)
This must be the end: Maybe I’m capable of only attracting assholes
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January 19, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 6/1/10)
No way in hell – well, maybe: I’ll talk to my therapist only if he apologizes
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January 20, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 6/3/10)
Resigned to reality: The best I can hope for is to understand his postion
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January 21, 2010 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 6/4/10)
Session deux – Part 1: Rough start to our second therapy session
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January 21, 2010 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 6/7/10)
Session deux – Part 2: Uncovering the reason why my therapist keeps violating the religion boundary
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January 21, 2010 – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 6/8/10)
Session deux – Part 3: Questioning what it means to dissociate
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January 22, 2010 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 6/10/10)
Sorting through it all – Part 1: Is it a deal-breaker that my therapist doesn’t believe me?
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January 22, 2010 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 6/11/10)
Sorting through it all – Part 2: Anger and apologies
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January 22, 2010 – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 6/14/10)
Sorting through it all – Part 3: Reasons I wasn’t fully truthful with Mark about my spiritual beliefs
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January 23, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 6/15/10)
It shouldn’t be this hard: The pros and cons of continuing with Mark
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January 24, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 6/16/10)
Bits and pieces: Dreams, piano lessons and emotional promiscuity
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January 26, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 6/17/10)
A lull in the storm: My piano lesson business is growing
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January 30, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 6/18/10)
What I really want: I really want Mark to stop talking and start listening
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February 2, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 6/21/10)
If only I could trust: Not being heard
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February 4, 2010 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 6/23/10)
Session trois – Part 1: Both Mark and I have tender spots in our psyches
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February 4, 2010 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 6/24/10)
Session trois – Part 2: Telling the truth and being believed — or not
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February 4, 2010 – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 6/25/10)
Session trois – Part 3: Curtailing unnecessary lectures
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February 4, 2010 – Part 4
(Posted to the blog on 6/28/10)
Session trois – Part 4: This therapeutic relationship works because of the conflict
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February 5, 2010 – noon – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 6/29/10)
Unlocking the mystery – Part 1: When I get triggered, I lock up
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February 5, 2010 – noon – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 6/30/10)
Unlocking the mystery – Part 2: Sometimes my therapist responds to my being triggered with skilled supported, sometimes with less effective ways
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February 5, 2010 – noon – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 7/1/10)
Unlocking the mystery – Part 3: Sometimes my therapist becomes aggressive in response to my being triggered
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February 5, 2010 – 7pm
(Posted to the blog on 7/6/10)
Melting down – 7pm: What if I quit trying to talk to people who aren’t willing to listen?
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February 5, 2010 – 9pm
(Posted to the blog on 7/7/10)
Melting down – 9pm: Most of all, I need to be heard
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February 7, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 7/12/10)
We speak the truth: What it means to hold my parents responsible
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February 16, 2010 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 7/16/10)
Finding my voice – Part 1: I’m not blaming my therapist for my lifetime of experiences or all my bottled up emotions
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February 16, 2010 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 7/19/10)
Finding my voice – Part 2: My therapist’s behavior is hurtful in a number of ways
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February 16, 2010 – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 7/20/10)
Finding my voice – Part 3: I need my therapist to be a witness to what I need to say and do without making it about himself
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February 16, 2010 – Part 4
(Posted to the blog on 7/21/10)
Finding my voice – Part 4: Most of all, I need to be heard
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February 16, 2010 – Part 5
(Posted to the blog on 7/22/10)
Finding my voice – Part 5: All the reasons I keep trying to make it work with Mark
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February 22, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 7/27/10)
A recital in the forecast: Putting together plans for an in-studio student recital
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February 23, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 7/29/10)
Questionable friendship: A friendship with a married man
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February 24, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 7/30/10)
Holding myself accountable: Asking my therapist for support in making wise choices
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February 27, 2010 – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 8/2/10)
Truth keeps flowing – Part 1: The ways in which Mark responded to my script
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February 27, 2010 – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 8/3/10)
Truth keeps flowing – Part 2: Asking for an apology
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February 27, 2010 – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 8/4/10)
Truth keeps flowing – Part 3: A pattern of selecting men who are not emotionally available
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February 27, 2010 – Part 4
(Posted to the blog on 8/5/10)
Truth keeps flowing – Part 4: Complaints about my relationships
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February 27, 2010 – Part 5
(Posted to the blog on 8/6/10)
Truth keeps flowing – Part 5: My family doesn’t support me
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March 2, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 8/10/10)
Letting go of the reins: Allowing my therapist to lead the way
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March 3, 2010
(Posted to the blog on 8/11/10)
Neurotic enabling: Trying to understand neurotic behavior inevitably fosters enabling
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March 4, 2010 – noon – Part 1
(Posted to the blog on 8/12/10)
He leads the way – Part 1: The state of my relationships
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March 4, 2010 – noon – Part 2
(Posted to the blog on 8/13/10)
He leads the way – Part 2: The role men could play in my healing
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March 4, 2010 – noon – Part 3
(Posted to the blog on 8/16/10)
He leads the way – Part 3: Stupid therapy homework assignments
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March 4, 2010 – 1:00pm
(Posted to the blog on 8/17/10)
Beginning of the end – 1:00pm: Can my best friend kick your ass?
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READER INPUT
(Posted to the blog on 8/19/10)
Reader Input: Give and take: How do you handle the give and take balance within relationships?
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